Dying To Self: How To Kill Yourself Without Doing Bodily Harm
Many of us have experienced suicidal thoughts at some point in our lives. We understand how terrible this pain feels, and we want to help make it tolerable for you. This pain is often made worse by thoughts of being a burden to others or not belonging anywhere. However, this is never the case. Harming yourself will only hurt the people that you love. Studies show that each person who commits suicide directly impacts at least seven people. Furthermore, the feeling of being in unbearable pain will pass. The most important thing to do is to keep yourself safe while you are feeling this bad.
Suicidal thoughts come and go. Even though you may be in a tremendous amount of pain right now, it is important not to act impulsively on your self-destructive thoughts. Make a promise with a friend, a therapist or with yourself that you will not do anything to harm yourself for a certain amount of time.
As one blogger , who has struggled with suicidal thoughts explains:. If even for one moment you feel a smidge of joy or like life is actually worth living, you have to start the 3 days again. This rule does not imply, by any means, that someone should choose to die by suicide if three days go by without feeling hopeful. However, it can give people who are hurting some distance between the thoughts and the action.
Putting time between the thoughts and the action saves lives, because no matter how permanent the pain may feel, the suicidal thoughts will come and go, they will not last forever. Take the necessary precautions to make yourself safe. Remove any items you could use to harm yourself from your home.
Do not isolate yourself. People are often too nervous, ashamed or afraid to talk about the fact that they are having suicidal thoughts. However, sharing these feelings with someone you trust is often the first step to feeling better. Find someone you trust, such as a friend, therapist, family member, teacher, member of the clergy or counselor for a helpline. Let the person know how bad you are really feeling. Seeking professional help from a therapist can be particularly helpful. Calling a helpline, such as the National Lifeline or Samaritans, can be an easy, free and anonymous way to get help.
The helplines are open 24 hours a day and offer chat or email features, if you prefer to communicate by text. Just talking about how you feel and how you got to this point in your life can be a huge relief and help you find a way to cope with the pain you are currently experiencing. Alcohol and drugs often intensify suicidal thoughts. Avoid all alcohol and any drugs that have not been prescribed to you by your doctor. Lack of sleep can contribute to depression and lead to an increase in suicidal thoughts. Try to regulate your sleep, aiming for eight hours a night.
If you find yourself without any energy and sleeping most of the day, it is important to get up and try to do something active. Even if it feels, like the last thing in the world you want to do. You don't deserve to hate yourself for something you said in the moment, everybody makes mistakes, I certainly do a lot. I hope you can see that. I don't know how this is helpful other than I can completely and absolutely relate to your feeling of wanting to die at the same time as not wanting to kill yourself. Over years the idea of dying has very gradually built up from a quick thought to a whole entire other thing.
I can't bear the thought of hurting others by doing that. Makes me feel selfish. We need to want to live. Its in our nature we just need to find it again. I would imagine your friend would want nothing else than for you to have a full and happy life. You deserve nothing less. I've been seeing my psychologist for about months now next week is my next appointment. You've actually said some things we have in common 1 I'm a young adult, 2 I've was reluctant to go to my appointment and try and except help and 3 I still don't understand how talking to someone I don't know to a bar of soap can help.
I am new to this forum and never usually share my thoughts and feelings. To know there is someone out there who has things in common with me makes me feel somewhat less alone, in that there is someone else out there who perhaps is going through some of the same feelings as I have. The way it feels is as if I am the only one in the world experiencing what I experience. Though we still know there are many others that do. Its hard to believe that when you don't actually know anyone personally who does.
Im finding it ridiculously hard to except help because sometimes I don't want to get better because I am already so low I find it difficult to see the point in trying. I try to wrap my mind around the idea of people working to help people who don't even want to live in the first place.
Whether is be through medication or spending time with another. I find this concept hard to understand. I suppose it is just normal. I feel very alone in my life. Except for my father and sister I don't reach out to anyone at all. I like to stick to myself to avoid any interaction, relationship etc as I have only been hurt in the past. I have had this account for sometime now, however only in the past 3 days have I been able to type anything down and actually post it.
What I hoped for was to find someone who could relate to me that I could talk to. Who gets me and who feels how I feel. Almost like an online friend I suppose? Anyway I feel the exact same way about psychologists, however maybe if you give it a go I'll give it a go too and we could talk about it on here? I try to keep reminding myself that they have been able to change others lives.
But in order for them to succeed in that we as the patient have to allow them too.
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To work with them. Something I think I will really struggle with. If you would to talk to me about anything I will be hear to listen. Hopefully some of my experiences, thoughts and feelings can relate to yours and we can feel as though we are both less alone out there. I'm glad you posted on this Ashley Once again I can say that I have somethings in common.
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I often just stick to myself and don't really interact with anyone either I just what you could say enjoy my own company. Here and there I open up a little bit to my parents but that's not often. Apart from that I don't talk or open up to anyone else in the way of family and friends I just find that since there not currently going through what I'm going through or don't understand me see eye to eye with me I don't tend to talk to them.
It's also good to see that I can relate to someone as well and I hope that your psychologist appointment goes well as well. I'm very much the same. I can spend a lot of time by myself without much trouble. I often prefer my own company because I find it a lot easier. And I only do what I want to do. I get into my TV shows, a little bit of reading, I strangely like doing the laundry and cooking and what not.
I'm not always but often a neat freak so spend time cleaning and organising haha. What do you do with your time? I completely understand where you're coming from, apart from my dad who has been the one encouraging me to get better I couldn't talk to anyone because they simply don't get it. I have talked a lot to my dad and tried to explain things best I can and I suppose he is just learning and he tries to understand how I feel.
It takes a while but if a family or friend is genuinely wanting to understand how you're feeling it could be worth while taking the time to explain to them how you're feeling It's just hard to find the right person. No one else cares about that part of me except dad. Ah I got it wrong. I have it today.
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I am extremely nervous. Don't want to go.
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Don't know what I should do when I am there. I don't know what to expect. I will let you know how it goes. Whether she seems genuine and real etc. I am female and I have always preferred to talk to male doctors I don't know why so this is even more foreign for me. Sorry I haven't posted in a view days I've been busy. Yes I'm not doing to bad I have my good and bad days today is one of my good days. Thats great to hear. Do you find yourself more motivated to do things when you're having a good day? I had my psych appt on Tues. It went by really quickly. All I did was just talk about myself so we could get to know about one another.
I felt like I jumped from topic to topic as it was all just scribbled in my head. I didn't find it too helpful. Felt more just like a rant. Yes I can say I do find myself more motivated to do things and be a little sociable when I'm having a good day but I only need one tiny thing to go wrong and it just then feels like the whole day and world is coming down on me again. I'm exactly the same with my psych appointments to me it feels like just a rant, nothing to helpful which goes quite quick. I have psych appointment on Wednesday so I'll let you know how it goes if you like.
I'm terrible at being sociable. I can relate to that. I always think what's the point when it all just comes crashing down. Does your psych try to help with thoughts or what not by giving you strategies or something? I don't really know what to expect. I have had one session with my psych so far. About a month ago Next appt is coming up in about a week. I already feel so distant from her again and out of touch? I feel like a month is a long time in between having sessions to really get something out of them. Also whatever 'mood' or feeling I am experiencing on the day of my appt will have a huge impact on what I want to talk about, my outlook on life and the world and the thoughts going through my head.
One day I can be a terribly negative person and can only see everything in a negative, cynical perspective but maybe on another day I am more open to looking at alternative view points. It's hard to explain - whenever I am down I feel as though I am going to feel exactly like that for the rest of my entire life, leading to thoughts like why am I even doing this etc. Going in and out of these feelings was what encouraged my depression - I didn't want to experience going in and out of highs because it let me down each time so much more.
I decided I preferred to stay in the low so that I didn't have to experience that 'come down'. Thanks demonblaster and dragonflies for the advise its quite appreciated. Its been quite hard lately I haven't been able to get past the last things I said to my friend, everyone says that its OK you's would of made up but the fact is we didn't make up I don't want to know that we would of made up I want to know that we did make up for it.
I speak to psychologist about and she says the same thing about it you's would of made up so when I talk with her it feels like I'm just talking to someone I have to pay. Friends have arguments but it doesnt mean they dont care or love eachother. Your friend would know you did. I do feel for you, really. Guilt is a powerful common part of grieving, its hard enough losing someone without having to deal with that. Your friend would have forgiven you when yous made up? If yes then you need to as well darlin. Hey demonblaster, I have my second psych appt tomorrow. Really not looking forward to it.
I will see if next appt can be closer. It has taken me a long time to spark some hope. Somedays I know its there, somedays it feels impossible I can imagine that what you are going through is extremely hard. Maybe the best thing you could do is try change your mindset to telling yourself yeah we definitely would've made up as it sounds like you were very close and in however much time, would've made it back to each other. It could help you begin to forgive yourself and thats the best you can do.
Your best friend would have understood. I believe she would be upset that you feel this way and would want you to forgive yourself too. I say things I regret all the time. You're no different to anyone in that matter. It was just very unfortunate timing and sadly you can't help or change that. Sorry for late reply. I had my psych appt and it went better than the last. Probably because we got slightly more into a particular topic, rather than last time where it was all over the place and things where only mentioned rather than discussed.
Coming up in 3 days I think? I've always talked to my dad about how I feel etc. But with the psych I was able to talk about my dad. Something I'm not really ever able to do. Also talking to someone about my dad who doesn't know him was different. Unlike talking to my sister or my mum because we always have a reason or justification for why he does what he does and says what he says - we all know him. I take on a lot of his values, opinions and attitudes. I try to live up to what he'd expect of me because I agree with what kind of person I should strive to be.
Like there is this person I should ideally be and to work towards that. I don't agree that it is some sort of validation I am seeking. He always comments when theres something bad rather than something good. Its rare that he'll say I'm proud of you.
I've been feeling a little more talkative and feeling slightly up I wouldn't say happy for the first time in a very long time. Yesterday, he commented that I am just so self absorbed as of lately. He used to say this to me years and years ago when I was younger, before I got really depressed. So this just made me feel that if I'm ever going to feel happy I won't be a good person so I shouldn't feel happy. I should just stick to myself and not get involved in any part of anyones life because I'm not a nice considerate person.
I don't even know what I am like. Maybe I am self absorbed when I am not extremely down. I think it's all easier to shut myself out and be depressed and just let it consume me. Nah thats another thing with depression that it takes us into ourselves, it makes us. It's powerful so so are we. Does your Dad k ow exactly how depressed you are, sorry iif you've said i would've read it but dont remember, if not maybe write it down that way no interruptions.